Here is a link to a blog I found.
Feel free to read it if you think I am taking their words out of context.
“I don’t know what it is about the last few years, but it seems that tons of lesbians are refusing the label lesbian and calling themselves anything else—genderqueer, non-binary, transmen, the list goes on.”
The list goes on. It does, it really does. With the evolution of the internet people are being able to come together, realise their similarities and pop a label on it to help others. Pretty amazing if you ask me. And it shows how pretty god damn lucky our generation is to have such an open space where they can help figure themselves out.
I’m only 21 years old, but even when I was a child, being a homosexual was not spoken about. God, I didn’t know what a lesbian was until I was about 16.
“I finally watched a few videos about How I Knew I was FtM tonight, and sure enough, these videos are full of lesbians who are desperately trying not to be lesbians and to be men instead.”
Need I say that gender and sexual orientation are different things?
Is it such a far cry to say “yep, I used to identify as a lesbian but when I didn’t fully understand who I was”?
“Here is a FtM video where she realized she was trans at age 23. (This means that she successfully navigated the world as a female for 23 years…it seems to me it would be entirely possible to continue!”
Successfully? So you know this guy personally then? You know that he had no personal problems growing up? Had no hatred towards his own body?
Wow. Yep, let’s all just sit and suffer. What’s another 60 years anyway hey? Let’s resort back to the old days where people were afraid to admit who they truly were. Brilliant, brilliant idea…
“Well, duh—the reason you aren’t breaking up with your girlfriend is because she’s still your girlfriend. She’s not a boy and you both know it.”
I seriously cannot get over the amount of mis-genders this women throws out during this post. He. He. HE. He identifies as a boy. How would you like it, if someone told you, you wasn’t a lesbian? You was a straight women, you were going through a phase and needed to be “fixed”.
But then I am sure you probably have been told that. We all have, anyone who “comes out” has been told that.
That wasn’t a very nice feeling. Right?
“It seems she wants to take testosterone just to gain permission to wear baggy clothes.”
Yep, you know what, when you go and speak to a gender counsellor this is the only thing they look at to prescribe you testosterone. Hit the nail on the god damn head. Well done to you for doing your research.
I can’t wait to sit down with a gender counsellor and say “Hey, I want to wear baggy clothes. Can you prescribe me testosterone?” and then hear them say “Of course! You poor thing. I’ll get straight on to that for you.”
“I like wearing boxer shorts and I’m the more feminine one in my relationship.”
Gee, how about I now tell you that you’re not a women that you’re a man because you wear boxers?
“You know, I think my partner is more masculine than some of these young dykes who think they must be men.”
This is just incredible.
“If you feel uncomfortable that people identify and treat you as female, you are not alone on that one, either. It turns out that it’s hard to be female in a woman-hating culture, and this is hard for all of us, regardless of our gender presentation.”
Ok, but there are levels to this stuff. There is feeling uncomfortable when you’re walking home alone at night. And there is wanting to not hear people call you “miss, love, ma’am.”
“I just don’t know what to do about all this. I know if I tried reaching out to any of these young women who think they’re men they’d just dismiss me as transphobic. But I don’t hate nor fear them— I care about them. I care about the fact that it’s hard to come out as a lesbian and I wish it wasn’t so hard. Truly, you can get over internalized homophobia, you can wear the clothes you want, you can find a lesbian partner, and you can have a wonderful life. I’ve been an out lesbian for years, I have a loving partner and I’m just living the dream over here. I want the same for all my sisters.”
Just because you don’t fear or hate towards us, doesn’t mean it’s not transphobic.
It’s not that hard to come out as a lesbian now. And I think that’s quite easy to admit. We have amazing women now like Ellen, we have sports plays who openly identify as a lesbian. It’s not all that hard. Yes I will admit that some people do still have trouble because of their surroundings. But still, in comparison to 20 years ago, it’s so much easier.
Coming out as Trans is a whole new level.
Now, the whole language of this piece just really stood out to me as transphobic. It was difficult to read, mainly because this is someone from inside the LGBT community, and they’re giving the T community a lot of harsh words.
Now I do accept that L, G and B are sexual orientations and that T is gender. But that does not give people the right to dismiss us all.
How do you expect society to grow and accept us, if our “own people” are giving us shit?
Anyway, I saw this, and I had to somewhat reply to a lot of what was said, and this is it.
If you read my blog, you’ll know that I am all for being open and I love having discussions and listening to other people’s opinions. And I totally respect the right for this women to call this out, to share her piece, that’s totally cool.
I just disagree with what she says and wanted to counter it.